In Not-So-Perfect Relationships

You know the phrase, “Well, in a perfect world…”? It always explains something ideal that is not currently the case within the present circumstances. Well, in a perfect world, conflict would never occur, and we would all live in perfect peace.

We know that conflict is a reality within our marriages, friendships, and every other kind of relationship we take part in. So, how do we navigate our differences well?

To Offer Healing and Grace

There’s no one-size-fits-all method for handling disputes. Or differing opinions. Or situations where our pride is bruised and our feelings are hurt. Yet we can know from the biblical wisdom we possess that there are some ways to manage disagreements that are better than others.

Today’s bit of insight comes from Proverbs, which is a book found in the wisdom literature of the Old Testament. It speaks a word that rings true for hearts softened by the gospel. To speak rashly to anyone—let alone the ones we love!—pierces like a sword. However, to speak slowly, pondering your words for the sake of peace, offers healing and grace to the soul.

Supernatural Conflict Resolution

Our natural inclination in complicated situations when faced with difficult behavior from complex human beings is to lash out. The godly response isn’t to merely sweep it under the rug, thought; rather, we are to take our time and process our thoughts, seeking reconciliation and forgiveness in the end.

It’s not about being right; it’s about bringing both parties back together. Christ’s example is one of humility and patience for us. So, while in a perfect world, we wouldn’t have to worry about fighting at all, we are still tasked with figuring out how to fight well. So, we take it in stride, trusting the Lord to fix what we can’t as we prayerfully pursue His peace and promises. This isn’t our natural means of “fighting,” but in God’s love, we can “fight” supernaturally: with enough prayer, grace, and hope that remains eternal.

Now What?

Consider your default reactions when faced with conflict. Do you speak rashly and harshly? Or are you on the other end of the spectrum, more passive for the sake of “keeping peace”? Consider how you can seek the Lord as you navigate relational hardship by daring to speak truth with grace. How can you offer healing and hope in your relationships?