18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponding to him.” — Genesis 2:18
From Brokenness to Blessing
by Brad Hicks
We are living in a world of broken people in broken relationships. The issue of how marriage should be defined is often seen on the front pages of newspapers and talked about on cable news. We cannot hide from the issue. If the church is to accomplish our God-ordained purpose in the world today, we must learn that our mission is to redeem rather than ridicule people for sins we believe we do not commit. The topic of sexual sins is a controversial one in our postmodern age. It is also emotional, but it is not something on which the Bible is silent.
When God created man, He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponding to him” (Genesis 2:18). Jesus later referred to the Genesis passage when He said, “Haven’t you read, that ‘he who created them in the beginning made them male and female,’ and he also said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?” (Matthew 19:4-5). God’s Word makes it clear that His plan for marriage is to be a lasting relationship between one man and one woman who complement each other. These passages refer to physical intimacy and relational completeness. It involves “leaving” and “bonding,” according to Genesis 2:24. That passage actually pictures the man and woman in marriage being glued together. Faithfulness and fidelity are foundations for biblical marriage.
In today’s world there are many things that interrupt God’s design for marriage and for sexual fulfillment within that framework. Pre-marital sex, divorce, same sex marriages, and adulterous relationships are a few. None of these reflect God’s original plan. God designed the sexual relationship to be between a man and a woman in marriage, creating a one-flesh relationship that opens the door to intimate communication and procreation.
So when considering the postmodern views of marriage and sexual behavior, how should a Christian respond? From Genesis forward, God made some things clear. In marriage, a man and a woman come together for a fulfilling union, to complement one another, to allow God to add children, and to build healthy relationships within the boundaries of their home. Within the marriage partnership there is to be faithfulness and contentment. God has designed marriage to form a relationship with Him and with one another for relational completeness.
When an interrupter of marriage interferes with these relationships, how should a Christian respond? If the mistake is ours, we should confess it honestly, trust God to redeem us from our brokenness, and restore us to Him and to the one with whom He chose us to walk through life. We should allow Him to create within us a newness that accepts and chooses to become more like Christ in our relationships.
What about others around us who are not living within God’s ideal design for marriage and sexuality? We should unapologetically proclaim God’s ideal for marriage. We should practice monogamous marriage by living faithfully with our one spouse. We should patiently pray for those who have chosen to live outside of God’s ideal will. We do not have to condone the sinful choices people are making today, but we should still treat them as people for whom Christ died and in whom He can do a saving work of grace. We should proclaim forgiveness and restoration to a more meaningful and fulfilling choice for those who have chosen arrangements outside of God’s ideal.
We should also remember Jesus words, “Therefore, I tell you, people will be forgiven every sin and blasphemy, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven” (Matthew 12:31). The only sin that cannot be forgiven is rejecting the witness of the Spirit of God to Jesus as the only Savior for us. Our need is to live faithfully with our one God-chosen mate and to lovingly lead those who have been broken by the interrupters to find restoration in our forgiving and redeeming Savior. Instead of criticizing and condemning, we can begin conversations with people that will lead them from brokenness to blessing.
- In your quiet times with God, ask Him to show you ways you can fulfill your relational responsibilities with your marriage partner and be a good example.
- Be intentional about strengthening your own marriage relationship and talk openly with your spouse about ways to improve your need-meeting responsibilities to one another.
- Meet God in His forgiveness for mistakes in your own life, and let Him be an example of how you should love and care for those who are living in brokenness around you.
- Make a list of those you have wrongly judged in regard to their life choices, and begin praying for God to open a door for you to have a conversation with them about God’s restoring grace.
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