The loss of a spouse is one of the most difficult pains of life. That’s why we provide care and support to widows in the community. If you are walking the hard road of grief, here are 3 ways you can find healing during widowhood.
1. Find and nurture your support system.
The temptation after the death of a spouse is to pull the covers over your head and isolate. Instead, find those people who will be your support system. These are people who will not try to fix you, who can listen empathically, who care deeply about you and your loss, who will not need to give advice, and who will be objective and honest with you.
In most cases, this is not going to be family. But it will be people who have gone through similar losses. That’s why Brentwood Baptist offers support groups so you can walk with others. Find those people and use them. Call them when you need to talk. Invite them over when you are lonely. Let them know what you need. These are the people who will be your lifeline when you think you can’t make it.
To find a support group, visit Brentwood.Church/support-groups.
2. Be honest about your feelings.
We often think of grief as overwhelming sadness, but it may also be anger, guilt, frustration, and other emotions. For example, you may be angry at your spouse for leaving you, but feeling guilty for thinking that, and frustrated that you can’t escape the pain. All these feelings become clumped together and are overwhelming.
To find comfort in grief, surviving spouses need to be able to identify and be honest with their emotions. If you can name them, one by one, you can better deal with them. It may be difficult to do alone, so talking to a professional therapist or mental health specialist may help. The better able that we are to identify our feelings, the better we are at finding some relief.
To find a therapist or mental health specialist, visit Brentwood.Church/mental-health.
3. Turn your loneliness into purpose.
One of the most difficult challenges in the loss of a spouse is loneliness. Even if there are still children at home, it can feel very lonely. For the surviving spouse, this means that you must be intentional about finding a new purpose for your time.
Reflect on what gives your life meaning. Ask how you can spend time that helps you focus on your life goals. Are there any new projects you want to start? Do you have new books you want to read or subjects you would like to study? Is there are skill you want to hone or a place you want to serve? Take the time that you’ve been given and use it for a greater purpose.
You don’t have to walk alone. That’s why Brentwood Baptist is here to help you on your journey. For more information, visit Brentwood.Church/care-support.